An Open Letter To Anyone Who Has Ever Struggled with Self-Esteem:
I have a friend. I know all stories begin that way,
but really, it's true. She is absolutely beautiful. She is a beautiful
mother, a loving and faithful wife, and a child of God. She has a
servant's heart, and her friends admire, respect, and appreciate her.
What people don't know is that she struggles.
struggles to believe she is a good mom. She reads blogs and sees
pictures of moms on Pinterest and Facebook that do more craft projects
with their kids than Martha Stewart, and she struggles to believe she is
good enough- creative enough, smart enough, there enough- for her kids.
She struggles to believe she is beautiful. Her nose
is a little bit crooked, her ears a little big, her legs a little long
and chicken-like, and her hair a little limp. She struggles to believe
she is beautiful enough- stomach flat enough, hair long enough, teeth
straight enough - for her husband.
She knows she is a child of God because she has
been told so many times before. She knows He loves her unconditionally.
She knows there is nothing she can or cannot do to change His love for
Yet she struggles.
It starts long before we ever realize it. Those
thoughts of being creative or smart enough? It didn't take Pinterest or
Facebook or even being a mom for her to realize she struggles believing
she possesses those traits- it started in the 4th grade when a cute boy
in class called her "stupid" or her mom threw away her art project
because it wasn't creative enough to hang on the fridge. Beautiful
enough? It didn't take her husband or even her first boyfriend for her
to realize she struggles believing she's beautiful- it started when she
was six and another little girl made fun of her big ears.
These voices inside her head are nothing new. They
are real, and they have been there for a long time. Voices that told her
she wasn't creative enough, smart enough, beautiful enough.
There is a passage in the Bible that many people
would say shows God's anger. It's in Genesis 3, right after Adam and Eve
decide to take the plunge and eat from the tree of of the knowledge of
good and evil. After they ate the fruit, they heard God walking in the
garden and hid. God called to them and asked where they were. They said
they were afraid because they were naked, so they hid.
God then asked them, "Who told you that you were naked?"
Many people believe He was asking it out of anger, but I disagree. I believe His heart was breaking.
Who told you...?
Who told you...
...you weren't beautiful enough?
...you weren't smart enough?
...you weren't creative enough?
...you weren't good enough?
You are my child! You are fearfully
wonderfully made (Ps. 139:13-15). I see you, I hear you, and I am
at the Well in John 4; Exodus 3:7). I have a plan, and it's a good one
(Jeremiah 29:11). My ways are perfect, and I will work everything out
for good according to MY perfect will (Romans 8:28). I am mighty to
save, and I rejoice over you with singing! (Zephaniah 3) I am close to
the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and I am the God of all comfort (2
Where I truly believe we see God's character is in verse 21. I've missed this a few times.
"The Lord God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife and clothed them." Genesis 3:21
Can you imagine? The God of the universe, sewing
together clothes to cover you. Clothes to cover your shame. Clothes to
cover your nakedness. Clothes to cover your inadequacies.
Clothes to cover your not good enoughs.
HE IS ENOUGH.
loves us with a perfect love- and it is deep and it is wide and it is
more than we can even fathom (Ephesians 3:16-19). Our names are written
on the palm of His hand, and before we were even born, He spoke our name
I am enough because He is enough. Period. My validation comes from Him and Him alone.
the next time you go to believe some of those voices- no matter how
long they have been there- forget who told you and forget what they had
to say. There is only One voice that matters.
And at the end of the day, I want to hear that voice say well done. How about you?